The devil is not to blame for every trouble you face in marriage and in parenting. The sin nature in each of us always plays a part. True enough where sin enters in, spiritual warfare may follow and it is therefore imperative that we guard our hearts and thus guard our homes from the attacks of the enemy and the sin we know as apathy and complacency. We cannot merely be on guard but we must also be on the offensive against sin in our lives.
We deceive ourselves if we think being Christian puts us on an auto-pilot journey to a life free of problems and heartaches. In fact, Jesus clearly stated the opposite, that we will have trials and tribulations if we are followers of the risen Christ Jesus.
In the model prayer did not Jesus teach us to pray: “…deliver us from evil…”? Yes, HE did, and this is where you start. You begin asking God to deliver you from evil and then you seek to follow HIM, not under your version of Christianity but under His authority in real authentic Christianity.
Here is the 10 point check list for men who claim Christ as savior.
- How is your personal relationship with God?
- How is your relationship with your wife?
- How is your relationship with your children?
- Do you lead your family to church each week?
- Do you give to your local church and serve as a volunteer in some way?
- Are you modeling for your son or daughter what a husband and father should be?
- Are modeling for your family and friends what a Christ follower should be?
- Are you making compromises related to raising your children in the fear and admonition of the Lord?
- Are you more concerned about what your wife does for you, than what you can do for your wife.
- Are you more concerned about your hobby (fishing, hunting, etc.) than you are about taking care of children and showing your wife and children that you love Jesus and that you love them.
God’s mercies are new each morning talk to Jesus about where you are falling short. Admit to your wife and children where you are falling short and then take action to be different. Most of all remember this: ITS NOT ABOUT YOU! THIS LIFE IS ABOUT GIVING HONOR AND GLORY TO GOD AND WE BEGIN AT HOME NOT AT CHURCH!